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Ⅳ. Suggestions on How to Achieve Success in Interpersonal Relationship for a Woman
Interpersonal relationship is an initial part of life. Every one is part or unit of this integrated society. Nobody can live in the society without communication with others. So interpersonal relationship is what women should care about. In terms of interpersonal relationship, Scarlet and Melanie are of two different styles. Both set a good example to a woman who intends to achieve success in this field.
A. to Learn from Scarlet and Use One’s Beauty Properly to Attract Others
Scarlet in Gone with the Wind attracted almost every man she met. Just like in the first paragraph of Gone with the Wind:
Scarlet O’Hara was not beautiful, but men seldom realized it when caught by her charm as the Tarleton twins are. In her face were two sharply blended the delicate features of her mother, a coast aristocrat of French descent, and the heavy ones of her florid Irish father. But it was an arresting face, painted of chin, square of jaw. Her eyes were pale green without a touch of hazel, starred with bristly black lashes and slightly titled at the ends. Above them, her thick black brows slanted upwards…She has the smallest waist in three counties. (Margaret, 3)
Scarlet knew the arts and graces of being attractive to man. She knew how to smile so that her dimples leaped; how to walk pigeon-toed so that her wide hoop skirts swayed entrancingly ; how to look up into a man’s face and then rope her eyes and bat the lids rapidly so that she seemed a kind girl with gentle emotion. Most of all she learned how to conceal from men a sharp intelligence beneath a face as sweet and bland as a baby’s. Scarlet’s mother taught her all that a gentlewoman should know, but she learned only the outward signs of gentility. The inner grace from which these signs should spring she now learned, nor did she see any reason for learning it. Appearance was enough, for the appearance of ladyhood had won her popularity and that was all she wanted. She had received proposals from nearly all the young men in the neighborhood and many other places. Scarlet knew which dress would best set off her charms and make her most irresistible to men. （科教范文网http://fw.ΝsΕΑc.com编辑）
In some degree we can say that beautiful appearance accounts her success in interpersonal relationship. Women in 21st century should also learn something from Scarlet to pay enough attention to the appearance. Even though some people say that “don’t judge a person by appearance”. It can not be denied that women with beautiful appearance are more likely to attract men and leave a deep impression. Loving beauty is people’s nature. A research shows that even a baby unable to speak will smile at the beautiful persons instead of the ones who are ugly. So interesting and funny! But that is the fact.
Before attending a party or dance hall, one important and necessary thing women can not neglect is to make themselves up. For example, before going out to an appointment with your costumers or friends especially male friends, women should chose a suitable dress or suit and with a suitable making up. You can use a lipstick to have charming lips. But remember not to have a heavy making up. Making up lightly is also a sign of respect for others. Nowadays in interviews some employers say that during the job interview, the company is more willing to choose those who make up suitably. They say that girls’ making up is the social etiquette. It does not mean that the employers look down upon the girls who do not make up just because whether a girl makes up reflects her social knowledge and culture of sense.
A good saying is that there are no ugly women in the world, while there are just lazy women. A woman having some disadvantages in appearance can take some measures to make them up. If there is acne or freckle on your face, you can apply some powder to keep them hidden. If the skin of your face is a little dark, you can apply some white powder to have a comfortable appearance. People can not deny that a good appearance is more impressive and charming, attractive than a plain one. People themselves also frequently have such experience that people are more likely to talk with strangers who are beautiful or handsome. （科教作文网 zw.nseac.com整理）
Besides beautiful appearance, unique character is also important for us to learn from Scarlet. Scarlet could express bravely her passion to her beloved man, regardless of others’ criticism. She made a beautiful dress out of the old curtain during the war time. She could go down to work in the cotton filed; she could kill the enemy herself
with a tinny gun left by her father. She could dance in the hall when she was still a widow. So many rebellious things she had done. But it was her personalities which were considered to be rebellious at that time that attracted men’s eyes. She was always the spotlight.
Being unique makes others discover your personalities, which make you attractive to them. The reason why there are differences among people is the unique features. And of course women themselves should cherish and enjoy their features. Some women may hold that the reason why it is hard to get along with others is that they do not receive enough education. Should women follow strictly the tradition to do everything? The answer is “no”. It is not a problem for the people to build interpersonal relationship with others. Young women are just in the time during which they are likely to show their own personality. So if you want to be loved by others you should love yourselves and your personalities. And at the same time you should also accept other’s character. Being unique is necessary for women.
B. to Learn from Melanie and Use One’s Internal Beauty to Win Others’ Respect and Trust
Scarlet is beautiful but Melanie is not. Melanie is just a common girl who does not have the charming appearance. But she is also as attractive as Scarlet.
The description of Melanie’s appearance is as follows.
Melanie was a tiny, frailly built girl, who gave the appearance of a child masquerading in her mother’s enormous hoop skirts-an illusion that was height-ended by the sky, almost frightened look in her two large brown eyes. She had a cloud of curly dark hair which was so stemly represented beneath its net that no ragant tendrils escaped, and this dark mass, with its long widow’s speck, accentuated the heart shape her face, too wide across the check-bones, too pointed at the chin. It was a sweet, timid face but a plain face, and she had no feminine tricks of allure to make observers forget its plainness. She looked-and was –as simple as earth, as good as bread, as transparent as spring water. But for all her plainness of feature and smallness of stature, there was a sedate dignity about her movement that was oddly touching and
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Try to show a little kindness and just shine your light for others to see. Kindness can be shown everywhere: kindness is on your face; in your eyes; in your smile; in your warm greetings. For Chinese people, when we make friends with others, we first consider if he or she is kind or not. Because kindness is the basic virtue a person should have. If one is not kind, it means that he or she is evil, troublesome or odious.
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Conclusion
From what has been discussed the above a conclusion can be drawn that women have wakened from the long sleep. Today’s women, holding half the sky, are masters of their own fate, which bring them great desire to achieve what they dream of. An ideal woman should be successful in career, family life and interpersonal relationship, which is not easy to achieve. But women need not be scared by these difficulties on the way to success. Women can get some inspiration from Gone with the Wind. In terms of success in career, women can learn Scarlet’s innovation, confidence and self-trust. As for success in family life, women can follow Melanie to hold the trust, respect and love for their spouses. As to success in interpersonal relationship, women can learn from Scarlet and be a woman with beautiful appearance and unique character; learn Melanie’s internal beauty such as sincerity, kindness, and smile.
Women can do what men do and they can even do better than men. Women can achieve success in career, family life and interpersonal relationship at the same time. So women should bravely pursue what they hope for, and with all their efforts women will eventually succeed.
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